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Brian Cox says his 24-year marriage to Nicole Ansari-Cox thrives because they live apart, guard their creative space, and still go to couples therapy.
In an era of merged closets and shared passwords, Brian Cox is quietly running a very different kind of love story. The patriarch of “Succession” and his wife, actor and director Nicole Ansari-Cox, have been married since 2002. Their secret, he says, is simple. They do not live under the same roof.
Cox, 79, told the Times that he and Nicole maintain what he calls a “good creative relationship” by keeping their domestic lives separate. They both live in London’s Primrose Hill, but in homes that are nearly a 10-minute walk apart.
“By keeping things separate, we are responsible for our own mess,” he explained. “It is as simple as that.” He added that personal space is nonnegotiable for both of them. “Her space is very important for her, and my space is very important for me. I think if we are thrown together, we feel locked together, and that is not a good creative relationship. You should be free.”
The physical distance does not stop at London. Cox shared that even in New York City and upstate New York, they keep separate bedrooms. Independence, for this couple, is baked into every address.
It is not just space that keeps them steady. Cox revealed that he and Nicole also attend couples counseling, describing it less as crisis management and more as respect for what she has invested in their life together. “Nicole gave up a lot for me,” the “X-Men” and “Manhunter” star said. “It was tricky for her, but she gave up a lot, and I feel that she needs to be honoured.”
Their story stretches back decades. They first met in Germany in 1990, when Cox was performing King Lear onstage. Romance did not arrive on cue. They reconnected eight years later in New York City, this time as partners, and eventually slipped away to Las Vegas to marry in 2002.
They built a late-life family together, welcoming two sons, Orson and Torin. Cox is also father to daughter Margaret and son Alan from his second marriage to Caroline Burt. Before Burt, he was married to Lilian Monroe-Carr. By his own account, he has lived several lives, but this union is the one heading toward a silver wedding anniversary.
“We are about to have our silver wedding,” he said, before praising Nicole with a warmth that feels far from his Logan Roy image. “She is considerable, she is considerable. She is one of the most generous and caring people.”
There is humor in the mix, too. Cox joked that the “problem” with his wife is her huge social circle. She has “too many friends,” he said, while at his age he is trying to have fewer, in part because “most of mine are dying off.”
The same interview also pulled back the curtain on how he is preparing for his 80th birthday. Cox is blunt about mortality, but not resigned. “Gym three times a week,” he shared. “You really have to be responsible for your body, because it is dying. You cannot give in to that.”
He admitted he worries about dementia, especially as an actor who still needs to memorize scripts. He said there are “all kinds of protocols” he can follow to protect his brain. “I am very careful about it, because I need to learn my lines to keep working,” he explained.
Cox also used the Times profile to fire off some unfiltered opinions about Margot Robbie and other Hollywood A-listers. He suggested that approaching 80 has changed his appetite for diplomacy, saying he no longer wants to be careful and will simply say what he wants.
What emerges is a portrait of a man who has stopped apologizing for wanting room to breathe. Separate houses, separate bedrooms, shared therapy, and a long walk between front doors. For Brian Cox and Nicole Ansari-Cox, that is not distance. It is the space where a nearly 25-year marriage continues to grow.
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